Communication is the foundation of a strong relationship, but ADHD can add unique challenges. This guide is designed to help you and your partner better understand how ADHD affects your relationship while providing helpful conversation starters for some of the most common challenges that arise in ADHD relationships.
The goal isn’t to “fix” ADHD, or to change your partner; it’s about creating the openness and understanding you’ll both need to work better as a team to solve these challenges together.
Approach these conversations with curiosity and compassion, and remember: ADHD isn’t a barrier to a healthy relationship—it’s just a different way of thinking and feeling that, when understood, can lead to deep connection and lasting love.
Before we dive in let’s talk a bit about HOW to have a successful conversation that leaves everyone feeling safe and heard. For these prompts let’s focus on three really easy to remember techniques: Active Listening, Mirroring, and Labeling.
Active listening means giving your full attention to understand your partner’s thoughts and feelings:
The goal here is to make your partner feel heard and supported so they feel safe opening up to you. Your goal is NOT to tell them your opinion or thoughts on what they’ve shared. (Unless, of course, they specifically ask for it.)
